I have been wondering for days now, how some loving husbands and wives in a short while in their marriage, become very violent and abusive towards the person they claim to have loved. Is it that they never truly loved the people they got married to or the person they loved, along the line has become a different person all of a sudden?
Some men and women are today wondering, what has gotten into their spouse head or spirit that has turned them into wild beasts. Some even do not know if they are the same people they got married to.
An abuser can be a man or a woman. But mostly is the men who tend to abuse their wives more. It is very rare to hear that a woman has abused a man. These are the 5 major reasons why people tend to be abusive in their marriage.
1. Sense Of Entitlement.
Most of the time, abusers feel they entitled to some level of respect from their victims. They always want their spouse to bow down to them and when they refuse to become slaves in their marriage, the abuser thinks the best way to make them submit to their authority is through violence.
2. Sense of superiority.
Most of the abusers have the feeling that whatever they do to you, nobody can question their actions. They feel they own you. So this give them the power to abuse the victims.
3. The Belief That Abuse Can Get Them What They Want.
Most of the these abusers feel that it is only abuse that can force the victim to give in to their demands. They feel they can get needs meet through violence.
4. Feeling Their Demands Must Be Superior To The Victims Demands.
Most of the times the abusers think their needs, wants and ideas should take priority over their victims.
5. Growing Up With An Abusive parent.
Many of these abusers grew up from an abusive home. Where they watched their family go through abusive perpetrators. Is very true that not all those who are abusive are from abusive families but some people tend to be abusive because the saw either a mother or father portraying that act and so they felt is the best thing to do.
One thing we should all know is that Abuse is not caused by being provoked, anger, mental health issues, loss of control over ones actions. Being Abusive is a choice. A person chooses to be abusive and blame it on other things.
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